Obviously Halloween is a very busy time as is now until the end of the year for anyone that has kids. I have so many pictures to post and details to give, but since I am short on time I decided to vent over part of my last week.
Friday was a Halloween activity at Rylee's school. We got there early and it was a good thing that we did because we did not realize that we were supposed to bring candy for this event to give to the kids. That was mostly do to Gary's wonderful ex and her terrific communication skills. We knew about this event only because the flyer happened to come home in her backpack on a Wednesday we had her, but did not have any of the other details. Gary actually had to ask her teacher one morning to confirm the time, because of course she would never tell him directly about any of this.
After the kids walked by we started walking toward the area where they were having the party. We wanted to say hi to Rylee and see how she was before we headed back home. Of course his ex was being so incredibly fake nice it was sick. This has become her new mantra lately and I have to say it is extremely annoying and not fooling anyone. It has become so ridiculous in all of her text messages to him, and little love notes she leaves in Rylee's backpack she is so over the top. All the while trying to drain him in every aspect she possibly can. A week or so ago she even went as far as to wish him a good weekend in a text message after a conversation they were having about Rylee. She was oh so concerned the weekend of our wedding that Rylee behaved. I am so sure that she was really concerned about this?!?! I don't understand why she is trying so hard, he certainly is not buying it and it is certainly not making him any more excited to have to deal with her.
Ironically while we were at this event on Friday we received an email from Gary's lawyer about more bullshit to do with this court mess. They are supposed to have another court date on Tuesday which means another $250 day for us, and she wants to act as if she is concerned about the quality of our weekend. Gimmie an f'in break!!!! I am sure nothing will be decided on Tuesday so we will be visiting court again in a couple months with many more lawyers bills to ensue. I know that this is what she was hoping for, and the thing that aggravates me is that these issues could have been resolved if they would just talk to each other. Instead why not make our life hell. But then why try to be nice. I have a HUGE HUGE HUGE pet peeve with fake people. I have spent a good portion of my life surrounding myself with genuine people and trust me they are easy to spot! I am who I am, and people can take it or leave it. That is how I feel about those around me as well. If she is bitter and angry then so be it, but DO NOT waste any one's time trying to pretend that you and your ex husband can ever be friendly not after what you have done!
Ok, I read this last night and it has been on my mind all day. I have thought of all the mean things I could say about Shari so that you would feel better. But, now I just feel sorry for her. She is such a sad, mean, vindictive, ugly person. All of this drama started because Gary wanted to see his little girl one more day a week. God forbid a daddy should ever want that. What kind of mother keeps their child away from their father. It is not as though he was abusive, he just quit loving Shari. And let's face it, she wasn't completely faultless in the demise of their marriage. And she has already caused someone else problems in their marriage. But that is right, only Shari can have affairs and still be little (ha!) miss perfect. She has become what everyone thinks of when they think of a bitter divorced woman. She takes Gary to court over the pettiest of things. Does she really think that you have millions stashed somewhere and that Gary is denying his daughter something. Of course you guys are struggling right now, he lost his job months ago. Unfortunately, that is why he can't provide for her as he used to. That doesn't make him less of a man or dad. It is just the economy, and for Shari to not realize how hard that is for him, but to then take him to court and expect him to foot her bills, WTF? That is only taking more money away from their little girl. I know that as soon as he is able, he will gladly support Rylee, but you cannot pay what you don't have. So let's bankrupt him, that will make it all better! But Shari doesn't understand real work and real life, because she works for her mother and I am sure she makes more than any other employee there.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for you guys, because she will never change. Gary will never be able to rationally speak with her, because she obviously isn't a rational person. There is just so much I wish I could say to her for you, but even then, she still wouldn't understand because she thinks that everyone is wrong but her. The only person it is punishing is Rylee.