So now my car payment is going on 10 days past due so my auto finance company has started calling our house and my cell phone every day. With Gary being unemployed he only gets paid his unemployment check every couple of weeks, and the last check that he got went to pay Rylee's school fees that she was hounding him about and $600 dollars to our lawyer. I would so love to give them her cell phone number so they can call and bother her since SHE is the reason that I could not pay my car payment on time. So yes, I am genuninely pissed off. I know that I complain about this situation a lot, and so I apologize to all my friends that read this. Unfortunately this is a major part of my life right now. I know she seems to believe that we have all of this money falling out of our butt, however the truth remains that he is not working and the business is not doing well since the economy has suffered.
Then Sunday she wants to spend time talking to Gary about their old friend who is about to have a baby with his "girlfriend". This is a man who started dating Shari's so called best friend while he was still married to anotherwomen that Shari called a friend. They would all go out together and she condoned this relationship. She actually had the nerve to compare mine and Gary's situation to this white piece of trash that she calls a best friend. She said she felt as if she was looking in a mirror. REALLY?!?!?! That is the biggest bunch of crap that I have ever heard. For the record...almost everyone knows that I was told by doctors that I would not be able to conceive on my own. I was always on birth control to regulate hormones, not for the actual birth control aspect. For christ's sake I went through 2 years of fertility treatments and hundreds of shots and procedures to have Zach. When I stopped taking birth control in the spring of last year the very LAST thing on my mind was that I could wind up pregnant. Trust me I will never forget the day I took that test until the day I die. I would not trade Brienna for anything, but trust me when I say that I would have never stopped taking birth control if I would have known that was going to be the result 2 months later. So please tell me how this is anywhere near the same situation as a women who already has 4 kids. Pretty sure her fertility was pretty well known and so their stupidity and carelessness is no where near the same. Not to mention that this guy and his "ex" wife have only been seperated for a few months and have not even filed for divorce. Gary and Shari's divorce was finalized a month after I found out I was pregnant and they had been seperated for over a year at that point.
So again I am sorry to spend so much time talking about this, but I refuse to let this situation affect my marriage and so as not to loose my mind with him I come here to vent. The sooner she realizes that I will do what ever I can to someday pay her back for all of this the better. Karma is a real bitch and her bad karma pool is just about filled up!!!!!
AMEN SISTER!
ReplyDeleteI'll have better things to say later, but I am going to bed now, so check back tomorrow....
Ok, here is my thoughts on all of this....
ReplyDeleteWhat the hell is she using her child support for? I don't understand why she keeps asking him for extra money. This may be part of their agreement, so I am really just asking. I mean do you now get child support and then extra money for extra things?
If she sees that her child support check are coming from the Illinois unemployment office, why can't she be a decent human being and cut Gary some slack? I know he is the type of dad that will make it up to her when he is able to. I am sure, however that she is really just trying to punish you, but she is not realizing that by completely breaking you guys she is really on hurting Rylee. And of course, isn't that what all good mothers want to do?
I honestly believe that all of this has to do with you. You know that she is so pathetic, that if you and Gary split up, she would totally take him back. She put up with his wandering ways before, so this really isn't that different. She is just mad at you and taking it out on Gary. She probably thinks that if she can cause enough financial problems between you, that it will lead to marital problems, and that then she can have him back. However, she doesn't realize how much he truly loves you. Your relationship is different than their's ever was. He didn't marry you out of obligation like he said he did with her. He married you because he loves you and wants to spend his life with you. I have complete faith that you guys will survive any crap that she has to throw at you. You can always make more money, but you can't buy love!
And REALLY...she said that that situation was like looking in a mirror. Maybe she just meant the looking at a pregnant person part, because only a pregant person would look as fat as her! Hahaha, I make myself laugh everyday. But seriously, you and I both know that you guys were nothing like that. It doesn't matter that you weren't married yet, you had been in a very committed relationship for over 2 years. These things happen. And Brienna was a one in a million shot. It was just something tacky for her to say. I feel that I am a fairly classy person, but Shari brings out the tacky. If she thinks that her and her skanky friends can sit around and talk about your family and try to ruin you, she has no idea!
But look at it this way...at the end of the day, you have an amazing man who loves you unconditionally, 3 amazing children, a warm home, a great neighborhood for your family, and you are all healthy! She is alone, and that is sad. So for me, that is enough.