Wednesday when Rylee came over she was extremely tired. I am not sure if she had a rough night the night before but she was more emotional then normal, and wanted to go to bed by 6:30pm. She only had a half day at school, and we laid low the rest of the afternoon at the house so nothing to tiring for her. Gary asked her in the middle of one of her crying moments what was the matter, and if she was sleeping okay at her other house. She said out of the blue, "I am not sleeping because I dream of being able to stay here all the time". Confused Gary asked her if this was a bad dream she was having or a good one, and she said a good one "because sometimes I wish I could stay here all the time". I think that really pulled hard on Gary because as much as he would love for that to happen it really is not possible.
It made me think about the differences between Rylee and Zach and how they have both responded to being from a divorced home. Rylee has really suffered emotionaly and in that regard has not been very resillant to all the changes that have happened in her life. Granted she was young when her parents seperated so when she is older she will never remember her life with both her parents under one roof, but it greatly effects her now. Zach on the other hand fully takes advantage of having two bedrooms, two sets of Christmas presents, two birthday celebrations, and all the other perks of having two families. He obviously suffers a little from the ridiculous comments that his father will make periodically about Gary not being Zach's dad but those are usually resolved after some quality time with Gary and I.
Overall, it really made me think about a lot of things. As much as Gary thought it was a great thing to hear, I am not really buying it. I really don't think that Rylee wishes she could be here all the time. I know that she knows we have more strict rules then her Mom's house but I do think she likes to have someone to play with whenever she wants. She is always making comments about the games she has at home that nobody plays with her. I am sure again that this is not entirely true, because when I asked her if she plays with her Mom she said "yes but Mommy is on the phone a lot too." Oh the things that little kids say really crack me up!
All in all, I guess that despite some others personal opinions I guess Rylee doesn't think it is so terrible to be over here after all and that is what I took away from this!!
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