oh, so now you want to be involved

Yesterday Joey calls my cell phone to complain about Zach's occupational therapy. I informed him of what was going on last week when I got the write up from the doctor. I explained to him that Zach had been diagnosed with Sensory Integration Disorder. When I told him about it he did not seemed phased by any of it. Then out of the blue he calls me to tell me that he knows his son and there is nothing wrong with him. I asked him if he had looked it up on the Internet like I suggested and of course he had not. He was demanding me to cancel the treatment or he was going to take me to court to take custody away from me. WHAT?!?! I would really really like to see that happen. Yes, any judge in their right mind would give custody to dead beat that can't pay his bills, and moves every 6 months to avoid bill collectors. That's funny, was my response to him.

After explaining to him about what the therapy entailed and that Zach would look at every week as a chance to play rough and learn how to regulate his senses and allow him to focus more all through play therapy. He managed to calm down a little. I finally had to say the obvious, that Joey does not have the first clue about his son. He spends the minimum amount of time with him, picking him up as late as he can on Friday and returning him as early as possible on Sunday. There is no way he has an accurate picture of Zach in that little amount of time. I gave him examples of issues he has at school, issues he has at home, and then issues he has in normal play with other kids. I pointed out some of the issues he had in sports, and then suddenly he was seeing where I was coming from.

You know, I am glad that he took in interest FOR ONCE in something to do with Zach. Zach has been seeing an Endocronologist since he was two and Joey has never once asked anything about any of those appointments. Now because he thinks I am submitting my child to some head shrinking process he is all up in a fuss. He amazes me, and more then anything reminds me of why I left that marriage far far back in my past!!!